How to deal with insecurity?
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Would it surprise you to know that most people feel insecure in one way or another?
Many of us don't know it, some of us do.
Insecurity is just an emotional interpretation, as two people with the
same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity.
A person who is secure with himself is much more likely to achieve success, have
meaningful relationships, and be respected by others.
A person who is insecure finds difficulty in many aspects of life.
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Since most people are insecure, a person who is secure has power and influence over
others; even if they are not otherwise powerful.
Insecurity breeds negativity and makes you an unpleasant person. Its imp
to learn how to be comfortable in your own skin!!
Insecurity may have many effects in a person's life. Insecurity is not to be confused
with humility, which involves recognizing one's shortcomings but still maintaining
a healthy dose of self-confidence. It is actually an emotional interpretation and
is usually often rooted in a person's childhood years.
Signs of insecurity in your partner
- Control freak – starts telling you how you should behave, what you should wear,
eat etc. because it makes him/her happier.
- Jealous – jealousy over seemingly minor things and not because he/she cares because
he/she feels threatened.
- Martyr – will always tell you all that he/she has done for you and want to make
you feel guilty.
- Its your fault – any disagreements or fights are always your fault and creation.
He/she is never accountable for their own behaviour.
- Sorry game – very quick to say sorry and promise never to repeat the behaviour,
especially if there is a fear of losing you. But there is no guarantee.
- Praise me – wants constant reassurance about how you perceive him/her and how
your friends perceive them.
Men
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An insecure man is constantly worried about his girlfriend leaving him, and is extremely jealous. This manifests itself in constant questioning, mistrust, and altercations with other men.
Men become abusive out of the need to control their partner. Instead of loving them for who they are, they try to force them into someone else.
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Women
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An insecure women stays in bausive relationship and has so little confidence that she is convinced that it’s her fault.
An insecure woman who is seeking constant validation from others relies on her sexuality as a crutch. It becomes her main source of emotional energy and begins to define her.
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Kick Butt: How on earth does one deal with insecure people?
 Are you always defensive? – insecure people tend to be very sensitive to criticism and invariably respond defensively. They cant accept that they might be flawed.
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 Don’t be? – be comfortable in your own skin. No one is perfect. And its okay to have flaws. For them only their opinion matters.
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I me and mine- that’s the mantra – insecure people tend to talk about them constantly.
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Open the doors – pause and look around you. There is a big world out there. And there are other people, other perspectives. And they matter too.
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You are mine – an insecure person is constantly worried about the partner leaving him/her. He/she is extremely jealous. This leads to constant questioning, mistrusts and altercations.
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Trust your partner – not just your partner but also yourself and your relationship. Give space. Show confidence. There is nothing worse than an claustrophobic relationship.
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Spend,spend – one way of coping up with insecurity is to buy and buy a lot of stuff. Everything that is in fashion.
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Save,save – don’t spend money unnecessarily. There is no point in buying things that you don’t need. You will end up looking like a wanna be. Try saving instead.
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